“Yeah, but …”

“‘Yeah, but…’ is pernicious. Because it makes it sound like we have the best of intentions when really we are just too scared to do what we should. It allows us to be cowards, while sounding noble.” – Jeff Goins

I am in love with this quote. It says what I’ve been trying to articulate without sounding trite. Credit where credit is due: I found this quote via my friend Amelia on this blog. The whole post is worth a read.

Tell anyone you’re going to live abroad and you’re going to be confronted with a lot of questions. A lot of the same questions. I have my standard answers down pat for most of them. And some seem like potentially backhanded ways of questioning my sanity through various degrees of implied “yeah, but”s. For example: “Where are you going to live?” “Do you have a job yet?” “Won’t you miss X?” “Do you have enough money saved up?” And, most directly, “Why?”

I realise a lot of these questions are said out of concern for my well-being, and I’m grateful for that. But (yes, I know, ironic word choice), as I said in this blog’s first post, if I wait for the stars to align just so before taking a risk, I’m going to be waiting an awfully long time. So rather than explain all the reasons I shouldn’t go abroad and face hypothetical stumbling blocks, let me explain why I am here:

  • I’m through with school (for now, at least).
  • I don’t have a family or career or many other of those grown-up responsibilities.
  • My amazing parents, though they would rather I not be so far away, support me 100%.
  • I haven’t decided what I want to do with my life, so perhaps inspiration will hit abroad. After all, my last time in New Zealand made me realise there’s nothing quite like being out of your element to force yourself to discover who you really are (and who you want to be).
  • Who knows when I’ll have this opportunity again? Despite the fear involved in moving abroad, I’m more afraid of looking back at my life and regretting its mediocrity.

4 Responses to “Yeah, but …”

  1. Sherry says:

    “Yeah, but…’” I understand and am very proud of you!
    Love you!!

  2. Amanda says:

    There will always be people that wonder why you’re doing this, but bottom line is you’re doing it for you, and why does there need to be any other reason? I am so excited for you! Once the career and responsibilities find you, you’ll be happy you took this chance when you were able! I am so glad I took the risk and moved to American Samoa for a year…not only was it a great experience but it led me to the amazing career I have now! I got the same questions you did and I know Amelia did too (people still ask me why she’s in Germany!). But let me tell you those questions aren’t nearly as frustrating as the “How was your trip?” Questions you get when you come back. It wasn’t a trip, I lived and worked there!!!

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