“109 More Healthy Things to do After a Break Up,” or “How Andrea Became a Happy, Functioning Adult Again: Part II”

A sequel to this post:

  1. Exercise.
  2. Make sure you’re sleeping enough — but not too much.
  3. Go to appointments for acupuncture, a chiropractor, massage, a LMHC, etc.
  4. In short: Listen to what your body is telling you. And it will tell you.
  5. Especially when you are sick.
  6. Drink ginger ale. Don’t drink soda or energy drinks
  7. Eat pretzels with peanut butter. And chocolate.
  8. Eat fruits and vegetables.
  9. Shop, and buy things that make you happy.
  10. But don’t go overboard on stationery.
  11. When you do go overboard on stationery, justify it to your dad by saying, “You could have a daughter who spends this much money on crack cocaine. Be grateful that you don’t have a daughter who spends this much money on crack cocaine.”
  12. See your body as it truly is.
  13. Stop giving f*cks.
  14. Find songs like this that you can relate to so incredibly much it hurts a little.
  15. Donate to causes in which you believe strongly.
  16. Go to Taco Time, but eat something healthy.
  17. Go to Taco Time, and eat something unhealthy.
  18. Laugh at and retell cry-worthy stories about killing moles.
  19. Remember this guy from Match’s mole story and smile. Screen Shot 2018-05-28 at 6.38.26 PM
  20. Watch heartwarming stories about “President Austin” feeding the homeless and telling people, “Don’t forget to show love.”
  21. Come to think of it, help the homeless yourself. However you can. Save little soaps and shampoos from hotels and hand them out.
  22. Watch a half-hour episode about Claire Wineland and realize you a) have never spent a better half-hour on Facebook, and b) you have nothing to complain about. Truly.
  23. In fact, re-watch this Rudy Fransisco poem, “Complainers.” It doesn’t matter if the glass is half full or half empty — there’s water in the glass. Sometimes we just have to drink it.
  24. Write a book of poetry about the break up. But keep it to yourself. Probably for years.
  25. Write a book of short stories about being a barista.
  26. Write a book about your Norwegian cousin who survived the Holocaust.
  27. Accept the fact that you really did feel closest to God with him. That wasn’t just infatuation.
  28. Vlog — about your poems, current events, being sexually harassed on the street and at work, about being manic, etc.
  29. Eat a salted and lemon-peppered avocado for dinner, in part because you love it, but to a lesser degree because it makes you a little sentimental about that conversation you had with him.
  30. Go a day or two without coffee, especially if you’re sick.
  31. But don’t completely deprive yourself.
  32. Compromise: drink coffee with honey or agave.
  33. Passive-aggressively speak to other drivers from the safety of your own car.
  34. Take the time to catch up with old friends when you run into them in town.
  35. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable, while also making you feel attractive.
  36. Be specific in how you compliment yourself, to yourself and to others.
  37. Love your hair. Love your eyes.
  38. Get up early when your body tells you to.
  39. Watch a sunrise.
  40. Watch a sunset.
  41. Marvel at cloud formations.
  42. Do the things that adulthood requires.
  43. Enjoy adulting.
  44. Take your friends’ advice, especially your friends who have more life experiences than you do. They know what they’re talking about.
  45. Take up friends on their invitations to leave the house.
  46. Go out and listen to live music.
  47. Substitute teach the children. Enjoy yourself.
  48. Read the same book alongside them during SSR.
  49. Give some of the older kids a little bit of relationship advice — without getting too personal.
  50. See your old teachers.
  51. Sit in on choir practice.
  52. Revel in the all-male choir singing to you.
  53. Look back fondly on your own high-school choir days.
  54. Banter with your high-school choir teacher.
  55. Let him text your mutual connection whom you want to ask out.
  56. Ask him out to that concert you were planning on going to anyway, if and when you see him.
  57. And even if he says no, go to the concert anyway, because another nice guy is supposed to be there.
  58. Enjoy singing again.
  59. Vlog.
  60. Blog.
  61. Sing covers of songs you enjoy and post them to YouTube.
  62. And tag the artists themselves, because why not?
  63. Listen back to your songs.
  64. Be proud of how nicely you sound.
  65. Don’t compare your voice to the professionally edited originals. Eleanor Roosevelt Comparison Quote
  66. Remember how he said your voice made him melt.
  67. Believe him.
  68. Be excited about the possibility of a first date with a new man.
  69. Revel in the peace you feel, specifically how you’re NOT waiting for the other shoe to drop.
  70. Update your book.
  71. Make phone calls pertaining to jobs for which you’re applying.
  72. Be proud of how you didn’t ramble in your voicemail. You sounded professional.
  73. Watch more Frasier.
  74. Watch Modern Family.
  75. But go to bed at a decent hour. You have to open the stand tomorow.
  76. Resist the temptation to redo song covers and other vlogs you’ve already published. You’re human, not perfect. If people don’t like it, that’s their problem.
  77. Shower at night, because a friend told you it helps get the pollen out of your hair during terrible allergy seasons like this one. And you know your hair.
  78. Know that in spite of everything, you regret nothing, because he gave you the happiest month of your life.
  79. Don’t be bitter. Or, if you need to be, make it brief, and then move on.
  80. Seriously, listen to your body. It will tell you what it needs.
  81. Acknowledge that God’s love is always right on time.
  82. Then believe that.
  83. Acknowledge that he made you a better Christian.
  84. Acknowledge that even after your time with him, you are the happiest you’ve ever been.
  85. Have conversations with your therapist about music’s effects on the brain.
  86. Talk to yourself. The smartest people do.
  87. Encourage yourself.
  88. Do the things you need to do.
  89. Then rest.
  90. Indulge in some of the things you want.
  91. Formally apologize, in a card or letter.
  92. Mean it.
  93. Forgive, forgive, forgive.
  94. When you’re ready. But remember: When You're Ready quote
  95. Not necessarily even for break-up related things. For anything you need to forgive.
  96. Forgive him
  97. Forgive yourself.
  98.  Be flexible.
  99. Be OK with imperfection.
  100. Listen to God.
  101. Do things to improve your memory.
  102. Invite friends out on their birthdays.
  103. Recognize love, in all its forms.
  104. Acknowledge that sometimes pain is the only way we can learn.
  105. Sign up for Wheel of Fortune, because you’ve always wanted to, and you want to pay back your student loans.
  106. Speak clearly.
  107. Choose your words carefully.
  108. Say what you want to say, like the Sara Bareilles song.
  109. Keep a gratitude journal daily.

About Andrea Nicole

NZ enthusiast in the PNW. Internationally published writer, educator, grammar nerd, genealogist, and all-around storyteller. Recovering homebody. @Whitworth and @WGU alumna. #edchat
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