I’ll preface this by saying these are not necessarily five ways to win my romantic heart, but rather five ways for me to respect you (but, OK, granted, some will fall in the former category).
1) Be nice. If I see you chatting up the person at the Wendy’s drive-thru, it will make me appreciate you much more than if you treat that person as a means to an end. Same goes for if the person is wearing a name tag and you use their name in conversation.
2) Musicality. Preferably guys who play the piano. Brownie points if you can sing. If you write me a song and sing it to me while accompanying yourself on the piano, I may consider marrying you on the spot.
3) An affinity for nostalgic things. The other day I heard this guy’s letter to A Way with Words about cursive (start at 1:44) and I found myself attracted to the author based solely on his feelings of this subject (So, John Foster of Vancouver, write me a letter sometime …). Same goes for old movies and music, talking to strangers on buses rather than staring at one’s phone, and the fact that the average high-school graduate 60 years ago was probably (in my opinion) smarter than the average college graduate today.
4) Speak and write eloquently. Never underestimate the power of a well-placed word. Major brownie points if you know when to use an apostrophe. I think the author of “Eats, Shoots & Leaves” stalked me before writing it; we are kindred spirits.
5) Listen rather than plan the next thing you’re going to say. This is something with which I personally struggle. But I highly admire people who do it well and often. Maybe you won’t get to use that funny relevant anecdote. Let the conversation flow the way it’s trying to. Show empathy rather than create a constant one-upmanship contest.